being harassed because my child comes first.

[Anonymous <no_email@fake.address>]

i'll try to make this short.
i was hired by a company in oct. that i had temped for
two years. a new plant and human resources manager were
brought in and i was hired. this office has 8 people the
corporate office refuses to staff the office there are
two of us that do the job of 5 people. anway problems started
when i was advised by my boss the human
resources manager that i "had to go to chicago to learn a
new payroll system" mind you traveling was not part of my
job description and also the previous girl that had this
postion two years ago made 8 thousand more than i do now starting
salary. i advised him that it would be impossiable for me
to travel since i have a 5 year old girl and my husband
works 12 hour shifts. my daughter gets bussed to pre
school after the end of the day. the same goes for the
morning hours i drop her off at pre-school and she is
bussed to kindergarden. to me this is end of story i have
no alternate care, my mom does not drive and my dad is
ill. my mother in law works, i do not depend of my
neighbors because after 7 years they are like strangers. everyone
on  the street works and has their own children. my child
is first in my life and that is that, no job is more important
than my child. well i was advised by HIM "you better start
making plans" i again advised him i have no plans and i
cannot travel. HE then said "this will greatly affect your
postion at white cap" he said that if he goes to the training
along with another girl in the office that it would not be
fair for her to train me nor would he. I am the only female
with a young child in the office. a few days later i advised
our plant manager, who i also work for of the situation. he said
he was unaware of this problem and he would get back to me.
well today i was called into the plant managers office along
with the human resources manager and they said to me that
first of all this was also a 90 day review of how i am
doing on the job. my plant manager said he did not think i
would make it through the first month on the job because
we had some problems setting up travel arrangments for him. 
he is relocation from chicago and goes back and forth. next
he said that we all have had young children and we all
sacrafice and make alternate plans. mabey if this job is
not what i expected he would not mind of i went elsewere, he said
he would "understand" during this time the other boss
attacked me and said that i am backloged i should be in
the office after 4:30 AND ON SATURDAYS. like nancy does she is
the other girl that has grown children and lives in the office.
the human resources manager just loves her. he also said
that i am not a team player (this is because i do not
sit in his office and chat like that other girl) i have no 
need to suck up to this man, i just do my job and i think
well. I was told other wise from both of them. the human resources
manager then said when i was hired he need a hr assistant
and i am not cooperation in that role. i advised him
that i have the job of three people along with
answering the switchborad and greeting guests. i told him
it is difficult to try and complete a job with such interuptions.
he said that mabey someone else would be better for that position
especially if i won't travel to chicago to learn the new
payroll/human resources program. they both had asked
me "what about your mother" i advised again about my parents
even though its none of their business. so i was told
that if i left they would understand or if i did not
go to chicago it would affect my job greatly, threats as i
see it. this is coming from two men who have the nerve
to make me choose between my job and child. oh ok i will
just leave my 5 year old in the street. i am appaled and
i dread going back to work on monday. i trust none of my
female coworkers so i have no one to discuss this with
except for family. i am a 35 year old smart women i
have been trained in corporate with general foods for
8 years and i am very professional.oh that reminds me
the human resources manager also said "about your attitude"
we have a safety meeting about a month ago and our maintenance
manager was discussing the typing of notes and he turned to
me and said "you will type the notes won't you" since i
have a good relation ship with this man and he knows my
personality more then these two, i said "no george i'm not"
this answer they said was unprofessional. i told them
both that i was kidding and george knows that. they said
well the other people at the meeting did not know that.
this is always alight hearted meeting with lots of
little jokes. me unprofessional i am the most professional
one there. i am poised and well spoken and dressed. i called
our maintenance manager that day and asked him if he was
offended by that incident he said "what brings this up no
i am not offended i know you by now" i felt this was
a nit picking way of trying to make me look bad. i am in everyday
on time. also i had some remarks made because i called in
one day because my daughter was sick. well towards the end
of that week the human resources manager said "mabye you
can catch up with being out and all" i answered "i worked
through lunch all week" he also told me to go out
in 20 degree weather with the other man managers and
give out holiday turkeys, i refused to do this since i
am not going out in 20 degree weather. i feel i am
being harassed and intimidated because i am a mother and
the only one in the office. there is no one on my side
and i feel that come the end of february they will fire me
for not making this trip. 

thank you for your time.