discrimination, sexual harrasment, mental torment on the job

[Anonymous <no_email@fake.address>]

I left a small office of all women after being verbally abused by a co-worker that was a close friend of the employers.  I wasn't going to win that one even though I talked with the employer about it and she asked me to understand the circumstances and if it got to the point of being so bad to please not leave her out on a limb but give my 2 week notice.  A month later I did as she requested out of respect for the employer/employee relation ship.  She fired me for it.

Worked in a place where I was sexually harrassed by a 19 year old kid, I was 33.  He made direct and explicit comments, advances, and actually coming up behind me and grabbing my breasts. I immediatley put him in his place as diplomatically but firmly as anyone would.  He became angrey and began misappropriating my.  Another girl came to me as she was being harrassed by the same kid and asked me to please help her.  She and I worked in different departments but at night so It was just the three of us.  I went to our supervisor and let them know how he was affecting our work, not mentioning the sexual harrassment because of hearing about other incidences that did not have a positive out come.  His shift was changed, however, other employees took a dim view of me and let me know it to the point of not wanting to work with me.  These were people I got along with until then.  I don't know what was said to anybody but the comment was made "what would a 19 year old married kid with a baby on the way want with an old woman like me.  Work became very uncomfortable and I left.
I believe they assisted in getting me my next job to get me out of there and at the next job I bought a new car and when the owner saw that he announced over the intercom "Look everybody she bought a new car, couldn't get herself a man so she bought a car".  That was my favorite of the other subtle comments made that I don't care to get into as it wasn't the worst place I worked.

The worst was a large corporation.  I was nervous and excited about the positon as I had never worked in a large company before.  I also had the misfortune of being in a bad personal living arrangement that I had announced I would be leaving prior to getting this position.  I was a simple data entry job, another night position, which I did not mind and it gave me the opportunity to get away from my personal situation until I could move.  It was mostly guys and one girl besides myself.  I worked with guys before and only had the problem with the 19 year old in the past so I didn't think there would be a problem.  I'm not a flirt and I have don't chase after guys especially at work.  They began by making comment such as I was anti-social and should get friendlier with the other girl and the guys I worked with.  I didn't relize I was being unfriendly.  Just not overly friendly, due to past experiences, it has proven not to be a good thing to get personal or too friendly with co-workers.  But they put on pressure like being in the twilight zone.  It was the most awful experience of my life.  I have had nightmares about these people for almost 2 years.  The first year it was almost every night.  I don't know how anyone could dislike anyone as much as they disliked me.  The girl that was there said I needed to be more like the guys because I just didn't fit in.  One guy flirted with me alot and due to my past experience with that I really didn't know what to do so I ignored him but still tried to get along.  The girl came to me and said she saw what he was doing and really pressured me to go for it.  Wishing it was her.  I told her I was thinking about it but not really as besides this being at work,  him being married, however she kept telling me how he and his wife was splitting up. my personal living situation escalated and I wasn't getting much sleep due to this.  now this is just minor compared to most of what they were doing, such as pushing religion down my throat, role playing of people I knew, saying that the supervisor likes to know who is working for him.  Stating that the video and records everything you do and say including at home.  Which proves to be true as I did finally get into my own place and I lived alone.  But when I got to work every night my co-workers knew everything I did that day.  Right down to how and what time I took a shower.  Somebody came into my apartment and trashed it.  Somebody came into my apartment and would use the toilet and not flush it.  Somebody came into my apartment and took the laundry out of the washer.  I changed my locks and they kept coming.  Everyday and night I was harrassed and threatened.  One night the bosses showed up to work and not only let me know they were watching me in my apartment also made a comment "So you think you're going to stay here permanently".  I had said in my interview that I was looking for a permanent position that I could retire from.  At one point early on co-workers were acting as if my work was unsatisfactory, and I was going though a really hard time at home so I went to my supervisor and asked how I was doing as I felt that possibly he was not satisfied.  I never said anything about the co-workers but when I got to work they let me know they were out for my blood.  Even trying to run me over with a jack.  The bosses knew what they were doing, even the cleaning ladies were involved.  All of them pushing me to know everything about me to the point of falling apart on the job from fear, intimadation, religious discrimination, and shear emotional, and mental anguish.  Also,  I was brought into the office on sexual harrasment charges by the guy that was doing the harrassing, which was set-up by him and the supervisor.  Even the women that worked there in the day.  It was unbelievable the amount of hatred these people had for me.  At night when I was done running invoices I had to call the main computer whiz and let him know that I was done and one night he told me I couldn't run for office now cus I was "tainted meat".  This was right after I came home and had such a strong smell of bleach in my bathroom that it burned my eyes.  When I got to work that night the cleaning ladies asked me to call the guy (the one doing all the flirting and brought me up on sexual harrassment charges) because they had to throw bad meat in the trash and he needed to dump bleach on it so no one would go in there and get it out because if anyone got ill they would be liable.  I was asked by co-workers if I got another job yet.  I was told it was nothing more that voting the union in which I didn't count so don't worry about it.  I was made out to be a piece of human garbage and that I was being cleansed for the love of GOD.  I live in a small city and I was even being harrassed when I went to the store, get gas in my car.  I was told they were trying to help me as I was too fat referred to as being an over grown zuchini that needed to be, for lack of remembering just what was said, cultivated.  I was forced to quit smoking through fear and intimidation.  I was literally run out of town.  And they hide behind the fact that I feel apart, depressed, and I am just a high strung, unstable, paranoid, delousional, hard up fat old lady.  Now keep in mind this is just the tip of the iceburg.  It would take too long to go into it.  However, I did have a breakdown because it was so intense.  But let's not forget it's only 10% the rest is how you react to it.  I lost everything because of it.  They were trying to save my soul!  It was in a hell of alot better shape before I met them.  So was my life.  Which I don't have anymore.  I couldn't handle the nightmare.  I went to a doctor a few times to get through what they did to me and discovered he was working for them.  They needed to cover there ass as they said.  So not only do I have the nightmare to contend with,  losing everything and everybody I love to contend with, I have difficulty in any job since then because of whatever they are saying about me.  On my jobs since then it has been made known to me without question that they are aware of what happened in the words not mine.  I was told I was in the middle of a war and I would never win.  I'll never go to another doctor.  I will never have a man in my life as I don't know if I will ever be able to be intament with one as yes they went that far.  Accused of being a lesbien, with aids.  You name it I was called it.  including a witch.  As hard as this is to believe it's true.  If you don't believe it it's ok as I live it and find it hard to believe.  But it will effect me for the rest of my life.
What do you do in the case of harrassment or discrimination.
I've tried everything and nothing works.  And everytime I say anything or ask anything I am crazy and it never happened.  They have it in black and white.  I call it the perfect murder.  They would have been kinder if they had just literally killed me.  So much for God!
I am broke and homeless.  I need a job as I can't sue them for this.  Lawyers won't even talk to me.  I'm unstable you know.
I hope this never happens to anyone ever.  These people are hidious.

That's my brief discription of what was done to me.  And, there was no discrimination.  Men and Women of all ages and types were involved.