Unfair and Abusive treatment on the job is just the beginning...

[Anonymous <DLS964@aol.com>]

Hi to all....it is so great to find this website.  I have been in the throws of a sexual harassment suit for the past year and a half.  I thought the abuse and harassment at work was bad.  Then I decided to stand up for myself and file this suit, can't say that was the wisest choice I have ever made.  It seems you only think you have been harassed and abused.  That is nothing compared to the harassment and slander I have endured since filing this suit.  Up until finding this website I was beginning to think I was the only one who "got it".   My entire life has been picked and poked through til I started believing maybe it was me.  Maybe I did deserve the treatment I received.  My ex employer is a ex deputy sheriff, many connections in law enforcement, he is a very intimidating man.  Not to many employees who are willing to stand up to him.  I think he is used to getting his way through money, intimidation, and connections.  What I have real hard time understanding is how this man has been able to skirt around the law, breaking it in some ways, intimidating people and obtaining cooperation from some in trying to cover up.  At this juncture I am very disheartened by the judicial system.  I have come to the conclusion that the majority of the public does not "get it".  "Boys will be boys" seems to be the popular opinion.  In my case I am not speaking of just occasional remarks, I am talking about several very nasty, cruel, degrading, insulting personal remarks being made on a daily basis.  Supervisors who were constantly harassing female employees, coworkers who often made very nasty and vulgar remarks in the presence of many others.  I do not understand why some of these people are covering for this man.  It seems I have been labeled the "traitor".  Now I am wondering how much more must I be forced to endure.  What happens when I go to court?  And exactly what proof or evidence do I need to win.  How many witnesses do I need?  Most of all I wonder if the fight is worth it being that my ex employer still doesn't seem to get the point.  He lies and says he knew nothing of any harassement.  I absolutely know without a doubt he knows exactly what I am talking about.  I sure could use some support and guidance in getting through this.  It is my understanding my case should be getting ready to go to court in early spring.  Can anyone help me out.  What should I expect next?  But most of all what does it take to win?  Help......send any advice or words of encouragement....I can use all the support and encouragement I can get right now.
Thanks to all.....D